WHY CAN’T YOU FORGIVE?

I always tell myself that when you live your life without anyone hurting, disappointing, disgracing or offending you it means you never did anything worthy.  There are so many people who are buried daily, and their crime is that someone they offended could not forgive them.

There are innocent orphans and street children out there whose crime is that someone did not forgive their parents.

The reality is that even as you read this piece, there may be someone you have blocked on WhatsApp or Facebook or you have decided not to respond to his/her posts or messages and the person’s crime is that he or she is naughty, broke your heart, disappointed you or said something that really offended you. You are not talking to your roommate, an old friend, a family member, your Ex or that special friend because they offended you and you cannot forgive them.

Yes, I really understand you, they hurt you. He/she is annoying, rude and not worthy to be part of your life. However, my questions are: do you expect someone to forgive you, if you can’t forgive others? Do you think you have never offended anyone before?

The beauty of life is that it comes with disappointments and offences from people you least expect. Unfortunately, some of us spend so much time on the disappointments and offences and end up becoming victims of all circumstances. Remember this one thing always: Holding unto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

The fact is that the world is full of annoying, naughty and ungrateful people; you will always come across them during the gentle stroll of your life span here on earth, but the best thing to do is to deal with them with love and maturity. You cannot get everyone to behave like you. Never!

Hatred and intolerance have caused many of the world’s problems and have solved none of them. We must learn to tolerate and forgive one another. We must have personal cemeteries where we can bury the faults of others and move on with life.

There are some people on this earth who when you treat them the way they are , they will forever remain the same, sometimes you need the love of God and ideal maturity to be with them. Their lives will never be better when you let them go.

I know so many names are racing through your mind as you read this piece. Yes, I have been there before to the extent that I felt like eliminating some of them from the earth, however, through prayers, love and maturity, today some of them are my best friends. It is never easy but it’s possible. You can say, “Thank you for that experience!

As you read this piece, I beseech you to take the pain and forgive that special person you have grudges with, unblock that friend and iron out your grievances. A great man once said that forgiveness is the sweet smell left by the flower on the bottom of the shoe which trampled it. It is the only needle that knows how to mend. Master the courage and apologize to that person you have offended. Life is too short.

The stars are falling , the clock is ticking, man is ageing, grave is calling and we are not in charge, Mohammed Ali once said, do not count the days, let the days count. Life is too short, don’t wait for perfect time to impact the world, you don’t know how much time you have left… now is the time….. Live life to please the maker that you cannot regret.

My dear brothers and sisters, may God make it easy for you to do the right thing.

We have been asking for forgiveness all through this year… imagine if you are told that God has not forgiven you. Please forgive others and pray that you are forgiven too…